Bert Matthews, 92, allegedly tackled and shackled at hospital

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B.C. senior speaks out about his treatment at a Vancouver Island hospital

CBC News Posted: Apr 07, 2014 6:09 AM PT|

A B.C. senior is speaking out about the traumatizing treatment he received at a recent visit to Victoria General Hospital.

Bert Matthews, 92, was rushed to the emergency room after fearing he was having a stroke or possibly a heart attack.

But after an initial examination, he found himself admitted to a psychiatric ward.

It was the middle of the night, and he decided he shouldn’t be there.

“So, I got up and I got dressed and I was trying to get out,” he said.

That’s when he was tackled by staff attempting to restrain him, Matthews said.

“Four nurses attacked me,” he said.

“They jumped on me, held me down, pinned me to the bed and shackled me.”

The struggle left his hands cut and bruised.

His son, Bob Matthews, came to visit and found him in bed with a restraining strap across his chest. His legs and hands were also tied down.

Bob Matthews heard his dad calling out, and found him tied to a hospital bed. (CBC)

“I could hear Dad calling, so I went right into the room and he was tied down to the bed. I couldn’t believe it,” Matthews said.

Due to privacy legislation, hospital officials won’t discuss the family’s allegations. But in response to CBC’s inquiries, the Vancouver Island Health Authority issued a statement.

“Island Health regrets that the family is dissatisfied with the care their father received… we will look into the circumstances surrounding the case,” said the statement.

Last week, another elderly couple complained they were deemed mentally unfit at Royal Jubilee and are being held against their will at Victoria General Hospital..
■Elderly couple demand hospital end ‘illegal detention’

Recently, B.C. became the first Canadian province to appoint a seniors’ advocate in response to reports of widespread systemic problems with elder care.

“British Columbians in general and seniors in particular need to be assured that I will do whatever is necessary to advocate what is in their best interests,” Isobel Mackenzie said following her appointment in March.

Bert Matthews says nothing in his life, not even fighting in the Second World War, prepared him for what happened during his hospital visit. (CBC)

Matthews, a retired lawyer and decorated Second World War bomber pilot, said he thought he’d seen it all, until that recent hospital visit.

“I’ve been shot at…I’ve been machine-gunned. I’ve been everything, but it’s not as bad as being strapped to bed as a helpless big man.”

1,892 US veterans have committed suicide since january 1st 2014


Reposted from an online story By Paul Szoldra on 31 March 14

Nearly 1,900 military veterans are thought to have taken their own lives in just 2014 alone, according to an estimate from Iraq and Afghanistan Veterans of America, ABC reports.

Extrapolating from a 2012 VA report that found 22 veterans took their lives each day in 2009 and 2010, IAVA members planted 1,892 flags on the National Mall Thursday to commemorate the staggering figure.

“We are losing too many of our brothers and sisters nationwide. And we’re storming the hill to change history and transform a landscape so that America will truly take care of its own who have shouldered the burdens of war,” said IAVA Founder and CEO Paul Rieckhoff in a statement to Business Insider.

Planting the flags was part of a push from IAVA to “Storm the Hill” and get legislation passed to combat suicide within the military ranks. It’s a huge issue — with more than half of the 2.6 million veterans of Iraq and Afghanistan still struggling with physical or mental health problems — many of which know a fellow service member who has attempted or committed suicide, Washington Post reports.

IAVA’s efforts have made an impact, as Sen. John Walsh (D-Mont.), the first Iraq war veteran to serve in the senate, introduced comprehensive legislation that would increase mental health professionals at VA, enhance collaboration with the Pentagon, and review cases of soldiers who may have been wrongly discharged for “invisible wounds.”

“Returning home from combat does not erase what happened there, and yet red tape and government dysfunction have blocked access to the care that saves lives,” Walsh said in a statement to Business Insider. “It is our duty to come together for real solutions for our heroes.”

S.2182, or the Suicide Prevention for America’s Veterans Act, now heads to the Senate Veterans’ Affairs committee

Welcome to my nightmare Or how to survive PTSD

I was watching TV the other day and a woman was talking to Matt lauer about PTSD, and she said her goal as a therapist was to take the patient back to a time when things were good. Good? She’s talking about a time when there were not monsters in the dark, or there was not a Taliban shooting back and when you are a soldier with ptsd or a person who was present on 9/11 there is a time back when,a time when the world was OK. It was a time when the patient … the person didn’t wake screaming in the middle of the night a time when a car backfiring didn’t cause you to push your family to the ground and yell contact.

For every returned soldier, for every 9/11 survivor or family member of a lost soul I wish them that peace. Noone who has ever pulled a trigger and ended a life can ever forget, it changes you for ever but there are tools, devices, and systems that a person can use to let them get along with life.

But there is another whole side to PTSD, the rape survivor, the molestation survivor the child who watched a parent kill a parent and yes for some of them there is also a time back when to aim for. There is also another very large group of people for whom there is no place back when, no time when it was good.
So many people for whom the monster started coming into their bed when they were 1,2 and3 years of age, and it never crawled out until they were big enough to fight and push them back. I know one child who from the age of two and half to three was raped daily, sometimes by their monster and sometimes he shared them. The terror went on continuously until that person was 14 plus and able to throw that person out. So for people like that the best therapist in the world will never help, they can’t because how do you expect someone to remember 1 year of age or 2 years of age ? How do you help a person go back to a normal life, when for them normal is an adult raping your body that is so small it is still wrapped in a diaper?
Normal is crying and screaming and sobbing for a parent, but imagine their confusion and sheer terror when the monster is daddy or mommy or grandpa or in some cases the big brother you idolize!

Stop putting PTSD into one small box, stop saying”crazy soldiers crying about their job” I guarantee you even if you have never ever met a soldier, you still know someone who has PTSD and it has nothing to do with a war with soldiers, but trust me as someone who has lived with PTSD all my life PTSD is a war it’s a war inside your mind, it’s a war that eats your soul and eats the souls of everyone you now and love. It eats their soul because you won’t let them in, even when they want to help but you don’t know how to help yourself so how can you tell others to help you.

The old saying it takes a village to raise a child is so apropos with a person living with PTSD, because with 22 returned veterans killing themselves every day and with teen suicide going through the roof in it’s numbers PTSD is as much a plague killing this nation as any blood born illness has ever been. We go to black tie dinners for aids fund raising on the same day the republican party says the government should not have to pay for service dogs for veterans, and if your injury as a soldier is emotional, if you have suspected PTSD as of yesterday there are 300,000 cases waiting for evaluation not treatment just to start the process with a minimum time expected to wait of 125 days with some waiting as long as 4 years.

In the private world a service dog can cost as much as $50,000 and the waiting list to start the process is longer than the militaries for mental health evaluation, so in fact to correct my previous statement a little PTSD isn’t necessarily the killer as much as the apathy and ignorance of the people with the power to help is.

When you see your loved on zone out, when they seem to reach for a gun or a knife that’s not there in times of danger, remember please don’t judge they have been to hell and their not necessarily all the way back yet so if you can if you have the stamina be patient and welcome them back with love when they come out of where their demons took them. I have my Ella she has gotten pretty good at being there when the screaming stops in the dark hours, I have two basic wishes one is you never now the hell that is PTSD, the second is if we share some of the demons you have someone waiting that loves you as much as my Ella loves me.
peace be with you

12 Basic Requirements for ADA Compliance at the Library

Reposted fro a disabled advocacy blog Online on April 2, 2014 by Hank Falstad

Man in wheelchair selecting book from bookshelf in the library

wheelchair_libraryADA compliance of course applies to your public library. There must be adequate parking, all areas of the library must be accessible and it must be possible for you to reach material that are on library shelves or have staff reach it for you. In addition, it must be possible to navigate through the library in a wheelchair or if you are vision-impaired. Signs in and outside the library must be visible to people with disabilities so as to make it easier to find places of access to the library and its various facilities.

1. Parking

If there is less than 25 parking spaces at the library, there needs to be at least one handicapped space that is van accessible. The space must be 8 feet wide and have an aisle 8 feet wide. It must have a level hard surface and signage and the curb cut must be close to the entrance of the library.

If the library has more than 25 spaces, but less than 50, there needs to be 2 handicapped spaces, though they may share the same aisle.

For even larger parking lots, there needs to be 1 additional handicapped space for every additional 25 spaces.

2. Signage

So, obviously signs should be large and clearly readable from the street, even by someone whose vision is impaired. The print on the signs should be adequate in size and contrast on the sign should make the print readable.The signs should also be at height readable by someone in a wheelchair.

The requirements are the same for signs inside the building and they should show which restrooms are accessible, directions to the elevators and stairs, as well as to public service desks, exits, meeting rooms and special collections.

3. Path and Doors

The path to the main entrance should be smooth with a hard surface and have no barriers; in addition, it should be at least 36 inches wide and have a safe and adequate ramp if necessary.

Door openings should be 36 inches wide and doors should be easily opened by someone with a disability. The threshold cannot be more than 1/4 of an inch high.

If there is an inaccessible entrance, there should be a sign directing people to an accessible entrance.

Book returns should be barrier-free.

Inside the library, pathways should be at least 32 inches wide and 60 inches wide where wheelchairs would need to pass each other.

4. Elevators and Stairs

If there is more than one level to the library, there should be an accessible elevator. Stairs should be at least 36 inches wide and have hand-rails. The steps should be non-slip and not more than 11 inches high each.

5. Floors

Floors should not be bumpy and have no debris or obstacles in the way. They should be flat and smooth and also not have loud colors that could disrupt the balance of someone navigating through the library.

6. Lighting

Lighting should be strong and uniform, glare-free. It is important too that the walls are not dark because they could interfere with the vision of some people with disabilities.

7. Public Access Catalogs and Computer Stations

The computer stations should have 36 inches of clear space around them and be at seating level if there are less than 3 of them. In larger libraries there can be a mix.

8. Furniture

There should be 40 inches of clear space between furniture in the library and tables should have a 27 inch high clearance and 19 inches of depth underneath for people in wheelchairs to fit at the tables.

9. Periodicals and Stacks

The top row at the periodicals section shouldn’t be higher than 48 inches and if it is, there should be a sign indicating that you can ask for assistance to reach higher material.

In the stacks areas, the aisles must have at least 36 inches of clearance but 42 inches is preferred.

10. Checkout

The checkout counter cannot be higher than 36 inches and must be at least 36 inches long.

11. Reference or Help Desk

The counter at the reference or help desks should not be too high for someone in a wheelchair or the library should otherwise make an accommodation; like having a section of the counter accessible or another table available for people with disabilities.

12. Restrooms

There should be no barrier to restrooms and their doorways should be 36 inches wide and doors should be made to be easily opened by someone with a disability. The stalls should be 5 feet by 5 feet to allow for movement in a wheelchair. Grab bars should also be installed. Fixtures should be no higher than 48 inches. Sink handles should be push-type or motion-sensor activated.


As it has done with many aspects of public life, the ADA has opened up opportunities for people with disabilities at the library and other educational institutions. This, of course, betters the community and enriches lives.

How to be invisible in a city of 8 million have a seizure and no one notices

As I told all of you last night this morning was my first session with a new therapist, it went well and I’ll see her again.
Going well with a PTSD specialist means I had a emotional stressed out morning recounting my demons so in a short a nightmare.
To reward myself I went to my favorite watering hole. For. French fries and a beer.The coffee shop restaurant union square seats 100 with another,50 at the bar. The only space available for Zeus and I was the very end of the bar right at the back by the kitchen halfway through my lunch my aura hit it was about 1.30ish next I know the manager is asking me to quiet Zeus he was tapping the people next to me and barking .they had it seemed turned their back,three bar staff and a dozen wait staff did nothing no one saw the woman in the chair convulsing or slumped. Twenty minutes past and nothing. I have been called many things in my life but invisible is not one of them ,but today in NYC in one of the trendiest glitterati hangouts where billy connoly has his own table I achieved invisibility.for all they knew I could have died ,I thought my morning was bad enough but this freaked me the fuck out. So here I am in union square, maybe you just walked past me? Who knows I am it seems after all the invisible woman !

★Over a Million Americans Currently Caring for Recently Wounded Troops

Abstract: New study by the RAND Corporation shows 1.1 million people in America caring for injured and disabled who have served in U.S. military since Sept. 11, 2001.

“While caregiving for the elderly and the disabled has been well studied, little has been known about the population of those who care for military personnel and veterans.”
Detail: More than 1.1 million spouses, parents and friends are caring for the injured and disabled who have served in the U.S. military since Sept. 11, 2001, often doing so without a formal support network and putting their own well-being at risk, according to a new RAND Corporation study.
The largest-ever study of military caregivers – commissioned by the Elizabeth Dole Foundation – finds that Americans who are taking care of veterans who served after 9/11 are younger than other caregivers, are usually employed outside the home and are more likely to care for someone who has a behavioral health problem.

Caregivers who assist post-9/11 veterans provide an estimated $3 billion in care annually and the work of all military caregivers saves the nation substantial sums in avoided long-term care costs. But despite these contributions, researchers found there are few public or private programs that directly support the needs of military caregivers.

“After more than a decade of war, the toll faced by the nation’s caregivers who aid veterans and military members is large and can be expected to grow in the decades ahead,” said Terri Tanielian, the study’s co-leader and a senior social research analyst at RAND, a nonprofit research organization. “Until now, the needs of this group have been poorly understood.”

As injured veterans recover and reintegrate into civilian life, many are aided by the support and assistance of nonprofessional or informal caregivers, individuals who provide a broad range of care and assistance with activities of daily living. That care can include activities such as bathing and eating, as well as making medical appointments, managing finances, caring for children and helping manage situations that could exacerbate mental health symptoms.

While caregiving for the elderly and the disabled has been well studied, little has been known about the population of those who care for military personnel and veterans.

“This study provides compelling details behind the incredible stories of selfless duty and sacrifice being demonstrated by millions of military caregivers across America,” said U.S. Sen. Elizabeth Dole. “The findings confirm this is an urgent societal crisis and will serve as a call to action in galvanizing communities and inspiring individuals and organizations to raise awareness and increase support for our nation’s hidden heroes.”

The RAND report is based on the largest and most-comprehensive survey conducted of military caregivers in the United States. Researchers surveyed a representative sample of more than 1,100 military caregivers and compared their experiences to both civilian caregivers and noncaregivers.

In addition, researchers searched for public and private programs that may either directly or indirectly aid military caregivers, such as efforts that provide respite care or caregiving training. This effort included interviews with 82 organizations to understand the history, funding and objectives of such programs.

The RAND study estimates there are 5.5 million military caregivers across the United States, with nearly 20 percent caring for someone who served in the military since the terrorist attacks of Sept. 11, 2001.

Compared to older military caregivers, those who care for post-9/11 veterans tend to be younger, diverse and are more likely to care for someone with a mental health or behavioral health problem, be a veteran themselves, be employed and not be connected to a support network that aids in caregiving.

The caregivers who serve post-9/11 military members typically assist with fewer basic functional tasks than other types of caregivers, but are more likely to help a veteran cope with emotional and behavioral challenges.

Researchers found the time demands on military caregivers are substantial. Twelve percent of post-9/11 caregivers and 10 percent of pre-9/11 military caregivers report spending more than 40 hours per week providing care.

While civilian caregivers reported missing one day of work per month, post-9/11 military caregivers report missing 3.5 days of work per month. The report estimates the value of this lost productivity at $5.9 billion annually. The lost wages add to the financial strain faced by these caregivers.

Researchers found that military caregivers consistently experience more health problems than noncaregivers, face greater strains in family relationships and have more workplace problems than noncaregivers. The issues were most acute among caregivers who assist someone who served in the military after 9/11.

“Caring for a loved one is a demanding and difficult task, often doubly so for caregivers who juggle these activities with caring for a family and the demands of a job,” said Rajeev Ramchand, the study’s co-leader and a RAND senior behavioral scientist. “These caregivers pay a price for their devotion.”

Military caregivers who assist a post-9/11 veteran face elevated risks for depression that is four times that of noncaregivers. RAND researchers found that more than 30 percent of these military caregivers lack health care coverage, suggesting they face added barriers to receiving help for their own health needs.

Researchers identified more than 100 programs that report offering services to military caregivers, but few target their services directly to caregivers. Most of the programs targeted the veteran, with family members who serve as caregivers invited to participate. Programs that do target caregivers typically are focused on older caregivers, not the younger caregivers who aid post-9/11 military members.

“There is an acute shortage of efforts to provide services directly for military caregivers,” Ramchand said. “There is a particular need for programs that focus on the younger caregivers who aid the newest veterans.”

Researchers say changes are needed to both provide assistance to military caregivers and to help them make plans for the future.

Priority should be given to strategies that strengthen and empower caregivers, such as training to help caregivers better understand their roles and develop the skills necessary to provide care and navigate social support networks. Efforts are needed to create caregiver-friendly environments, such as workplaces that can adapt to the flexible time needs of military caregivers.

In addition, more programs should focus specifically on the needs of military caregivers, providing support based on the duties they perform rather than their relationship to the care recipient. Those services include respite care that provides caregivers a short-term break and better access to health services.

Future planning efforts should help caregivers create financial and legal plans to ensure caregiving continuity for care recipients. Such services should be integrated into existing services and organizations through formal partnerships.

The report, “Hidden Heroes: America’s Military Caregivers,” is available at Other authors of the study are Michael P. Fisher, Christine Anne Vaughan, Thomas E. Trail, Caroline Epley, Phoenix Voorhies, Michael William Robbins, Eric Robinson and Bonnie Ghosh-Dastidar.

The Elizabeth Dole Foundation was founded to uplift American military caregivers by strengthening the services afforded to them through innovation, evidence-based research and collaboration. Information about the foundation’s vision and approach can be found at

So your kids have embarrassed you and you don’t want them anymore? Wow I never knew children were disposable.

When your son or daughter tells you a parent, a relative, or a sibling molested them you immediately hugged them cried and told them it wasn’t their fault and called the cops all the while fighting the urge to get a hunting knife find the bastard and castrate them didn’t you. DIDN’T YOU?

When your child came out as gay, yes you were confused but eventually you told them you loved them and it didn’t matter right? RIGHT?

All my politically correct trendy Manhattan living, must summer in the hamptons friends are saying right now ”MIA OF COURSE, THIS IS 2014 WHAT ARE YOU TALKING ABOUT? SOME OF MY BEST FRIENDS ARE GAY AND MY DOOR MAN TOLD ME THE JANITOR IS A MOLESTATION SURVIVOR!”

Then there are those who not only get told you were molested and deny it and throw you out, but they take down all your pictures and when they notice the paint is faded where the picture was so they’re nothing if not thorough, they paint the wall to make sure you are totally removed from the consciousness of the family. The other night Ella and I had to attend a $1,000 minimum a plate dinner for aids research fund raising through her work, and everyone was politely applauding when someone donated a large amount or a famous person gave a rousing speech and sure most of the audience was gay but the few millionaires and occasional billionaires from park avenue who were straight had come down to see how the gay live. The thought crossed my mind as they donated, were they donating to the cause or paying penance for their sins against their own children?

On TV this week I see chers son talking about being on the outs with his mother because he went to rehab for drugs? Wow the biggest gay icon in the world has a problem with a son on drugs? Sure as a mom she should but if she turns her back on Elijah blue for it she should give back every cent she ever made from the gay community.

You don’t have to be rich to be a hypocrite as a parent, my mom was thrown out by her mom because my oldest sister was born out of wedlock, my father her first husband almost beat her to death many times, I witnessed him break all four limbs as a four year old, so she ran because abuse abuse was wrong. Four years later she walked in on me being molested by my sibling and stood watching for a minute and said “enough of that you have school in the morning*”.
When my sister and I had him charged we were disowned and the wall was painted when our pictures came down, it seems running because abuse was wrong was OK for her but we should just lay back and think of the good family name.

When I came out almost 25 years ago and became transgender, she started addressing letters to “Miarosa” that lasted for about a year, then until 3 years ago when the phone rang and a aging female voice said “you’re no longer my child you’re dead to me “ up until that day for over 20 years the letters came addressed to me as a male , my mailman only knew me under my female name so he kept marking her letters “return to sender”

The highest suicide rate amongst teens is caused by the parents disowning them when they come out, the second highest is from molestation survivors who are not believed it’s almost equalled by bullied teens.
Four days ago My mother turned 80, on the 28th of January my good brother had a birthday, on the 20th my older sister, back in December my baby sister had a birthday and today is my sons birthday here it was yesterday in Australia.
I have enough siblings for my own sporting team, I have over a dozen nieces and nephews I have never met, now even my nieces and nephews have children. I have seen none of them for two decades, some of them for almost three, my only crime was doing what we tell every child to do “if you’re molested tell someone”.
Years later I came out and to them it was the last straw, and they will have nothing to do with me. I have run around the world several times to escape the pain, but finally realized every time I ran I packed the pain and brought it with me. I survived just fine JUST, I met a woman who holds me when the nightmares are at their worst, she laughs at my jokes and is someone who I love something I thought I would never say ever again. I now have a family, her family but think about the child you threw away who is loving them today?

When it’s their birthday or yours who tells them it wasn’t their fault? who’s doing your job? Because if you can’t answer my questions you’re sure as hell not doing your job.

Before you scream fagot at your gay child, or LIAR as your child tells you that dad or uncle or the priest or the coach molested them, ask your self one question IN TWENTY YEARS DO YOU WANT TO CELEBRATE THEIR BIRHTDAY AT A PARTY OR THE ANNIVERSARY OF THEIR SUICIDE IN CHURCH?
What ever the result ,what ever you’re remembering, twenty years from now you’re 100% responsible by the choice you make.

If you have a teen or a child in their twenties and you know something is happening, and you know they want to tell you before you answer when they finally are brave enough to ask yourself which is more important, their safety or your public image?
Because I am a fifty something product of the wrong decision, My mom is now in her eighties she doesn’t have long left on this earth and my step dad whom I worship has had 3 heart attacks and a bunch of strokes, neither are long for this earth but I’ll never get a call so I read the Obituaries from my home town regularly so I’ll know.

Before you re post another meme on face book that says “my son/daughter are amazing and I love them, ask yourself “do you really ?unconditionally? Or just when someone is watching?

*= an excerpt from Mia G vayners nover the secrets the mirror kept