to show your solidarity with him, his family, and the entire community of Darby Township, PA.
.Yesterday, we posted a story about 11 year old Bailey O’neill from Darby Township, PA who is currently in a medically induced coma following a school yard fight… with a group of suspected bullies.
Please like and share this photo of Bailey and use the hashtag #ISTANDWITHBAILEY to show your solidarity with him, his family, and the entire community of Darby Township, PA.
Below is a detailed account of the bullying.
Bullying Attack Leaves 11-Year-Old in Coma
A Pennsylvania boy is currently in a medically induced coma after a schoolyard fight with classmates who he and his family claims were bullying him.
Sixth-grader Bailly O’Neil, an honors student, of Darby Township, Pa., was involved in a fight four weeks ago at the Darby Township School. He was struck several times in the face by another student; the blow fractured his nose and he fell to the ground.
His parents brought their son, who had a concussion, to the A.I. DuPont hospital in Wilmington, Del., where he was treated and released. But his father saw that something wasn’t quite right with their son when they returned home.
“He was sleeping. He was moody. He wasn’t himself. He was angry a little bit. He wasn’t really eating,” Bailey’s father Rob told ABC Affiliate WPVI-TV.
Just a few days later, Bailey started having violent seizures and needed to be hospitalized again. The seizures were so bad that doctors at A.I. DuPont were forced to put Bailey in a medically induced coma nearly two weeks ago.
When contacted, A.I. DuPont Hospital was unable to provide an update to ABC News on Bailey’s current condition because of privacy laws. His father is trying his best to cope.
“Every day I’m trying to stay strong for him,” he told WPVI-TV. “When you get into that hospital room and you’re looking at him, I would trade places in a heartbeat. It’s my buddy, you know.”
Southeast Delco School District Superintendent Stephen Butz told ABCNews.com the school has turned the investigation over to local police and is cooperating fully with their efforts.
“We take bullying seriously,” he said. ”We are very concerned about the medical condition of the student and our thoughts and prayers are with the family and students.”
According to Bailey’s father, the boy who struck his son was suspended for two days following the incident, but police have not filed any criminal charges in the case.
Let’s work together against bullying and help bring the teen suicide rate down to zero
On Sunday, January 13th, George “Buddy” Peterson surrendered to the nonstop bullying he’d been subjected to. At age 13, he ended his life.On the facebook blog page, one of Buddy’s relatives described him:
Buddy was an amazing kid..almost to a fault….He was such a cute, witty, funny, talented true friend
The accolades don’t end there. The online obituary for Buddy had this to say:
Buddy was a bright, shining star in the lives of his family and friends. He had a life full of enormous potential and possibilities ahead of him. But, like many of those who went before him, he couldn’t get past the bullied he endured.
If ever there was a case of bullying and bullycide that screamed for investigation and accountability, this is the one. There are a few very disturbing facts involved that require full attention:
- It is known by the school, who was responsible for the relentless bullying that Buddy endured.
- His parents did everything the right way and was at the school regularly. They were told that the boys responsible for the bullying would be removed from the school. That never happened.
- Because of technicalities in the Utah school districting laws, Buddy was not permitted to change school districts until the end of the school year. Instead, he was forced to stay there and continue to endure the abuse he was receiving.
It goes even deeper than that, actually. In what is becoming a disturbing trend, it appears that Buddy’s mother took all the right steps, reported everything that needed to be reported, was persistent in trying to protect her son, but the school system failed her. And, ultimately, Buddy.
Earlier, there was a bit of a debate about bullying on the facebook blog page. A couple of people were voicing the opinion that those who are being bullied should “get a backbone” and “stand up to their bully”, that would make the bullying magically disappear. That’s a great, macho response. And, perhaps, it’s worked for some. But, rest assured that that is not the way we’re going to overcome this menace that’s claiming so many lives. Buddy Peterson is a prime example of why that mentality, that “solution”, is grossly ineffective. Buddy Peterson was a second-degree Black Belt in the Martial Art of Tae Kwon Do. A second degree Black Belt. Being able to defend himself was certainly not an issue. Yet, the bullying he endured was too much for him to handle. Why? Simple answer: the bullying Buddy Peterson endured had nothing to do with physical bullying. He wasn’t being physically attacked or pushed around. Rather, his torture was of the psychological and emotional brand.
“All he wanted to do was go to school and fit in”, said his mother, Karen.
It’s time to have a very open and honest discussion about bullying. I don’t mean engaging your CAP LOCK and typing “BULLYING SUCKS” or “STOP BULLYING”. We’ve seen how effective that is. It’s time to really have a much deeper, broader conversation about:
- What bullying truly is;
- What are the long-term effects of bullying;
- How do we prevent it?
It’s obvious that the bullying prevention programs that are currently in place in schools today are largely ineffective. Zero tolerance has proven to have no meaning. It’s still going on on a regular basis, little-to-nothing is being done about it, and these young people are still ending their lives because of it. I’m not okay with that. No one should be!
One thing that’s become obvious is that bullying has many different faces. It’s not just the name calling, it’s the physical abuse. It’s not only emotional warfare, it’s exclusionary actions. Talk to 10 different people, you’ll get 8 different answers. That’s the U.S. trying to tackle Al Qaeda. We know it’s there, we see the devastating harm it does, there’s no specific place to go to fight and eradicate it. In the homes? In schools, with better bully prevention measures in place? In schools, with more, and more stringent!, accountability for the school staff? With the students?
As I see it, the starting point is no mystery, actually. THIS HAS TO START WITH THE ADULTS!! What we’re seeing in the schools with the young people is simply a manifestation of what they are learning, either directly or indirectly, from the adult influences in their lives. It’s. That. Simple. What’s not as simply, however, is expecting all adults to simultaneously and instantaneously change their behaviors so that they’re being better, more positive role models for the young. Negative, spiteful people will always be around. So, to combat this at its core, it has to be done in the homes. That is where the ball is being dropped. Period. And, that dropped ball is costing lives.
There’s still more that needs to be done. Starting in the homes only attacks the head of the beast. Meanwhile, in every single school across this country, and around the world, there’s bullying going on right now, as I type this. And, at least one of those cases of bullying will lead to another teen suicide! Will…not “might”. This war on bullying will be won in the homes, with the parents. However, this war’s “battlefield” is the classroom, the school bus, the school yard, the cell phone, the Internet. That’s where it needs to be “contained”. And, the only way that’s ever going to happen is we must get serious about ending this path of destruction we’re on.
- School officials must be held accountable for what’s happening inside of the schools and classrooms;
- The bullies, especially when the bully or bullies are readily identifiable, must be held accountable. That’s an absolute;
- More, and better, resources must be readily available for those who are being bullied;
- And, if my child were being cyberbullied, that’s an easy one: their computer usage if restricted to “in common area only” and is heavily monitored. Period. Their cell phones would no longer have texting capability.
It’s a matter of life and death. To look at it any differently is to invite this to continue to escalate. I, for one, don’t want to see that happen. This is war. The battlefield is the classrooms, the hallways, the school yard, the school bus, the Internet, the cell phones. The troops on the front line are your kids!!!
The U.S. is winning the war against Al Qaeda. We’re going to win the war against bullying. It’s time to stop shaking our collective heads and saying “this has to stop” and get busy with the business of making it stop.
Rest in peace, Buddy. The world lost a bright, shining star.
A 15-year-old gay teenager has been taken off life support, after hanging himself in a local school playground after being bullied because he was gay.
Jadin Bell, of La Grande, Oregon, was taken off life support today after hanging himself. He was subject to homophobic bullying both online and in person because he was gay, Katu 2 reported.
“He was different, and they tend to pick on the different ones,” Hill told the news station. He remembered Bell fondly:
“If someone was down and out he would walk into a room and say a couple quick words and everybody would just forget about their problems and smile. He just had a gift.”
The LaGrande Observer reported that over 200 people, including family members and classmates, turned out at a candlelight vigil for Bell last week.
His friend, Jody Bullock, said last week: ”He is amazingly sensitive… If he saw a wounded butterfly [as a child] he wanted to heal it … He is an amazing young man who is smart and very social.”
A smart intelligent downs syndrome adult John Franklin Stephens writes An Open Letter to Ann Coulter
John Franklin Stephens
The following is a guest post in the form of an open letter from Special Olympics athlete and global messenger John Franklin Stephens to Ann Coulter after this tweet during last night’s Presidential debate.
Dear Ann Coulter,
Come on Ms. Coulter, you aren’t dumb and you aren’t shallow. So why are you continually using a word like the R-word as an insult?
I’m a 30 year old man with Down syndrome who has struggled with the public’s perception that an intellectual disability means that I am dumb and shallow. I am not either of those things, but I do process information more slowly than the rest of you. In fact it has taken me all day to figure out how to respond to your use of the R-word last night.
I thought first of asking whether you meant to describe the President as someone who was bullied as a child by people like you, but rose above it to find a way to succeed in life as many of my fellow Special Olympians have.
Then I wondered if you meant to describe him as someone who has to struggle to be thoughtful about everything he says, as everyone else races from one snarkey sound bite to the next.
Finally, I wondered if you meant to degrade him as someone who is likely to receive bad health care, live in low grade housing with very little income and still manages to see life as a wonderful gift.
Because, Ms. Coulter, that is who we are – and much, much more.
After I saw your tweet, I realized you just wanted to belittle the President by linking him to people like me. You assumed that people would understand and accept that being linked to someone like me is an insult and you assumed you could get away with it and still appear on TV.
I have to wonder if you considered other hateful words but recoiled from the backlash.
Well, Ms. Coulter, you, and society, need to learn that being compared to people like me should be considered a badge of honor.
No one overcomes more than we do and still loves life so much.
Come join us someday at Special Olympics. See if you can walk away with your heart unchanged.
A friend you haven’t made yet, John Franklin Stephens
Special Olympics Virginia
When you reference part of society in an obscene slur or put down, the part of society you refer to you are describing as so horrible, so useless so not worth a damn that they are the worst thing you can call someone.
When you call an unfaithful man a dog you are saying he is nothing but a walking erection who like dogs, will mount every female of the species he can! Am I right girls?
The term thug used to describe someone prone to instant violence when upset, goes back centuries to a lethal Indian cult of killers who swore to eradicate the British invaders from their homeland they were called thuggies today it’s shortened to thug.
So you think the person who is n your face book wall is an idiot so you call them a retard? when you do this by the common reason used by society for creating a slur or a putdown you are saying a child who no fault of its own is born with the cord wrapped around its neck stopping oxygen to the brain or a child born with anyone of over a thousand mental illnesses or genetic differences causing diminished capacity are the lowest of society. You are putting them in the same grouping as the dog or the thug or the feeling you have when you scream homo to the gay kid across the playground!
Wow by your rules is epileptic diabetic Down’s syndrome cardiac patient paraplegic or blind a slur? are all we the disabled according to your hierarchy of existence mere fodder for your mealy mouth and uncontrolled hate?
If we are then you my friend just became by societies standard something to be yelled in hate as a slur, because your idea of “if you’re less than perfect you disgust me” has no place in decent society. The difference between you and those you condemn, is we have the ability to get on with a life that is productive and filled with love you I fear may just be sentenced to the bare basics of waking sleeping and breathing.
Unfortunately for you, joy is reserved for those who think and care.
On Monday the East Aurora, IL Board of Education unanimously adopted a groundbreaking policy hat would benefit the trans and gender non-conforming students in their district
The new policy specifically states that transgender and gender nonconforming students have the right use the restroom that corresponds to their gender-related identity that is consistently asserted at school. The student has the right to be addressed by the name they want to be called, too.
“A court-ordered name or gender change is not required, and the student needs not change his or her official records.” it’s stated in the policy
“In no case shall a transgender student be required to use a locker room that conflicts with the student’s gender-related identity,” the policy reads.
Didn’t take long for the transphobes of the Illinois Family Association, a Southern Poverty Law Center certified hate group to jump in and start stirring up opposition to the policy. to the point in which the East Aurora school board started wavering on doing what was right. The pushback from groups supporting the policy was just as swift.
The Trevor Project issued a statement in support of the policy.
“The Trevor Project is fully in support of maintaining the policy adopted unanimously by the East Aurora School Board on Monday,” stated Abbe Land, executive director and CEO of The Trevor Project. “Since 2010, more than 3,000 teens from Illinois have called the Trevor Lifeline in crisis, and among their top presenting problems were bullying and harassment at school. This policy will help protect the highly vulnerable transgender student population from discrimination, fear and hate that leads to bullying, increased anxiety, and elevated safety concerns on East Aurora’s campuses, and is a step that can help save lives.”
Last night the East Aurora board held another meeting. By a 4-0 vote with three board members absent, they caved to the chrisotfascists at the Illinois Family Association and rescinded the policy the board passed on Monday to boos and cries of “Shame” and “Cowards”.
The policy had support from the overflow crowd in attendance for the meeting. Out of the twenty people that spoke at the emergency meeting, 17 were in favor of keeping the passed policy. One of those persons in favor of it, Victoria Beltran, who has three children in the District’s schools had this to say.
“If you go against it, there’s no reason to support you guys,” she told the board. “We need to hear everyone in our district and not people outside our district.” Ms.Beltran was referring to the haters at the IFA, who like the cowards they are didn’t send anyone to speak at that meeting.
Parents who are in favor of the policy are considering in conjunction with several organizations lawsuits to restore the policy, and I wouldn’t be surprised if those board members find themselves challenged in the next election cycle for caving in the face of bigotry and hatred.
The bigots and bullies of the IFA won this round because the East Aurora, IL school board was too cowardly to stand up for what they passed Monday. If they did so out of fear they were going to lose their seats, their actions last night to rescind the policy may be what actually costs them their seats, not supporting the trans and gender variant kids of the district .
And speaking of those trans and gender variant kids, you rescinded the policy on Spirit Day. It’s bitterly ironic that on a day in which millions of people and allies around the country show support to trans and gender variant kids against bullying aimed at them, you East Aurora school board members caved in to the bigots and bullies of the Illinois Family Association.
That’s fracked up East Aurora school board, and shame on y’all for not being tough minded enough to stand up for the trans and gender variant kids in your district
Oy vey Rabbi letting your staff abuse a Jewish woman, he curses her out and you do nothing this is a shanda
My Ella was born in Odessa in the Ukraine, when she was born there it was called simply the USSR.
She is the Jewish daughter of a Jewish woman who is the daughter of a Jewish woman in Judaism three generations of Jewish women proves your lineage as Judaism is matriarchal your father can be Jewish and your mother something else and that doesn’t make you Jewish but if the reverse is true no matter what your father wants you are Jewish. It doesn’t matter if you never enter a synagogue or if you are brought up catholic if your mother is Jewish you are Jewish.
The reason I explain this is because my Ella is such a woman, we never go to synagogue and she doesn’t follow the religion very well but Jewish she proudly is. Well down stairs from her office is a synagogue and a Jewish school for pre- k and a orthodox art gallery and shop as well they have a kosher deli.
So Ella who is also vegan has trained the staff to make her vegan breakfast. Recently to her surprise they employed a non Jewish tattooed Hispanic kid, cool she thought they are breaking the mould and giving anyone who can do the job a job she was happy.
Happy until today when she ordered a bagel with just jelly on it and was charged what she normally pays for a full salad sandwich, when she questioned the price the profanity flew he screamed, he yelled he abused and when she said I can’t get a word in edgeways he said “that’s because I don’t give a damn to hear what comes out of your mouth”. Wow all over a bagel with a smear, so to calm it down knowing the synagogue owned the deli she went in and spoke to them. She was directed to a very obviously Hasidic man, ringlets and coat and hat who after hearing it took the side of the loud mouth and said he did nothing wrong.
I know this isn’t about disability folks but she is my love and if you can’t be supported by your faith and your community where can you be? And even worse the loudmouth shouldn’t abuse anyone Jewish catholic or Buddhist it’s all wrong. If she can’t expect her own rabbi and synagogue to talk to employees and tell them abuse of women is wrong what else I have to ask is the Jewish faith turning a blind eye to? Spousal abuse? Beatings?
I have found in my 50 something years what you will let happen to your own family you’ll let happen to all. So next time you see the over coated furry hatted rabbi with ringlets marching strictly through crown heights Brooklyn or anywhere else followed 6 paces behind by his bewigged wife don’t simply pass the obedient distance off as “just a religion”.
Just this year a rabbi and counselor arrested for serial child molestation amongst his own community had other rabbi’s and men throw a fundraiser for his bail and defense and the victims and their families were outcast.
Turning a blind eye to a foul mouth employee is one thing throwing a party for a monster is disgusting .
To all my wonderful decent Jewish friends around the world as always Shabbat shalom, but to the rabbi in Manhattan who allowed his employee to abuse my Ella you are a disgrace.
ABUSE OF WOMEN BY ANYONE FOR ANY REASON IN ANY WAY IS WRONG STOP IT NOW!
High end SUV’s chrome rims blaring rap music and the driver on the cell phone, oh and a disgusting attitude to the disabled that’s how they roll
Yesterday I had a bloody amazing day I slept late left early had lunch at the great Brooklyn vegan eatery V then I went to Brooklyn boulders rock climbing gym and climbed solo on the self belaying walls from 3pm till 6pm when Ella got there then we climbed together the day was perfect SO FAR.
Then we decided to go to a restaurant we had been too many times before, safe we thought? we ordered the vegan burger it came with the outside burnt the inside cold it fell apart and couldn’t be picked up like a normal burger then the staff laughed at us for complaining, so we left.
As we rolled up 4th ave from degraw to the subway elevator at Atlantic pacific, we got to the intersection of one of the side streets the crossing light said walk . As we went to cross a jacked up blinged out metallic painted range rover with huge chrome rims pulled up fast, it was blocking the cross walk. The occupants were all club dressed Latino women all dancing to rap music in their seats, and the driver was illegally on her cell phone. I politely said “excuse me miss I can’t cross can you back up?” she exhaustedly looked sideways still on the phone and screamed while gesturing out the window” NO why don’t you walk around” walk around? So she is inconsiderate blind and stupid she is looking down at my wheelchair yelling for me to walk?
She screamed at me in some Latino dialect pointing at the road all four other women screamed at me I heard “puta” every second word. I was forced with Ella playing traffic cop on fourth st Brooklyn at 8 pm on a Thursday night with heavy traffic whizzing past me To roll along the road in the the car lane in traffic rolling around her while being abused in Spanish.
For the next five blocks they shadowed us in the car, constantly driving up beside us the going around the block so they could come up behind us to scream again. With the high number of shooting murders in Brooklyn in the last year many of them drive by’s Ella and I were in serious fear for our lives. We breathed a sigh of relief when we made the MTA elevator, but were frightened every second on the train platform until we finally were on the Q train to Queens borough plaza.
Before you say “mia it was a one of event” read my blog, this kind of “I’ll park where I want stop where I want fuck you” attitude happens regularly. Just this Sunday a government car with a flashing light on its dash parked for two hours while in church blocking the ramp at a corner using their official dashboard paper to break the law.
We have been rammed by bangers in SUVs’ because they were blocking the cross walk but I got” too close to their”ride” we have been threatened chased and much worse all because they were wrong they were breaking the law and to go around would put me in a wheelchair in a lane of peak hour traffic so I politely ask”backup”.
The stop sign also has a white line it is normally a car length back from the cross walk and that is to keep the cross walk clear and safe. Coincidentally every person who has almost hit us as they sail into a screeching stop blocking a crosswalk, was talking on a cell phone while carrying on to screaming loud music.
I can’t get up and walk around but you can learn to drive and PUT THE DAMN CELL PHONE DOWN WHILE YOU DRIVE. Stop signs are not a polite suggestion they are the law,And crosswalks are not parking spaces for you to “just dash in anywhere” and cell phones are banned while driving ,it’s law again not a lifestyle suggestion more a life saving law.
People will flame this story and say I’m racist, but to the very last offender they were either African American or Latino all dressed gang style all listening to rap and all driving large unnecessary off-road vehicles in the city and all had no respect for the rules off the road or anyone else on them. Do you sense the “the world owes me everything attitude?” I do. The world owes you nothing except to take away your phone your ride, and until you take away the attitude and the stupidity make you damn well walk!
October 19, 2012 | Categories: Access Denied, Bullying, Crimes Against Us, Law Enforcement, Living Despite Disability, My 2 Cents Worth | Tags: hey mr blinged out ride, the cross walk is not your private parking spot | 3 Comments
Reposted from a story Posted in the huffington post 10/10/2012 11:22 am EDT Updated: 10/10/2012 11:58 am EDT
When my son started to be understand what i was teaching him, yes I tought him fighting was wrong but I also taught him that decent people stand up for those who can’t stamd up for themselves.
Three years this mongrel(look up an australian dictionary) picked on a special needs child, and the teacher didnt stop him from picking on on the physically and intellectually disabled. A decent boy obviously raised with ethics and morals and great sense of right and wrong was forced by institutionally approved apathy to take the teachers role and stand up for the disabled child and stomp out bullying. I say bravo I say clone this kid and get his parents on a speaking circuit to show bad parents how to stop phoning in their responsibilities.
To punish this child is wrong, a sharp talk that violence is always wrong was warranted, laced with “I can understand you felt the nee need to help and we are sorry you felt like noone else cared the teacher should have but again violence is wrong” and then you send him back to class the teacher you kick up the ass all the way to the unemployment line.
A father is on a mission as he stands outside his son’s school sandwiched between two signs that read: Bullying Victims are Punished Here. Bullying is undoubtedly one of the largest issues kids face today and parents and schools have taken action to stop it. One Texas dad has chosen to stand up to bullying quite literally — he spends a few hours each day outside his son’s middle school wearing a sign that reads “BULLYING VICTIMS ARE PUNISHED HERE.”
Randy Duke, whose “day job” is training police officers in Afghanistan, told KHOU that his 14-year-old son, Max, has been bullied by a classmate for several years and that last week, Max reached his breaking point. The boy told his father, who is only home from abroad briefly, that he made a paper airplane for a special needs student and a bully stomped on it. “So Max just looked up and said, ‘What the hell?’ and this guy shoved him. Max had had enough. And that just snapped him, and he shoved back and they started into it,” Randy told KHOU.
Max was suspended for two days and will have to spend 30 days at another school. According to Click2Houston.com, he won’t be allowed to march with the high school band at a football game which would have been a “rare honor.”
In addition to public protesting, Duke is filing an appeal, Click2Houston reports.
Other parents agree that Max’s punishment was too harsh.”Here you’ve got a child that retaliated for being picked on for three years and he’s being punished. It should have been stopped three years ago,” another father, who didn’t want to be identified, told KHOU.
Diane Boyett, a district spokesperson, said in a press statement that, “if a parent feels their child is a victim of bullying, a report needs to be made.” In this instance, Randy Duke said that he had reported the bullying.
When you call someone for a service, say doctor or therapist does their weight matter? Do you really care what their voice sounds like? How many times have you left hairdressers and said to someone “she looked like a dude or did you hear her voice?” What the hell did it matter as long as your doctor is good, as long as your therapist gets to the root of your problem what does their voice their weight their gender identity or sexual preference matter?
I work tirelessly for the disabled community I write sometimes a dozen pieces to help fight discrimination a day yet as a transgender lesbian woman I will call someone for a phone conference and hear the pregnant pauses and the chuckles when I am introduced as a woman, I have even had so called caring counselors give me the card of vocal coaches so I could sound more feminine?
So someone who will tell you she cares about people that is why she got into counseling is uncomfortable talking advocacy with me because don’t sound female enough for them. What happened to the days when no one cared what you look like as long as you did your job no one care what you sounded like as long as you were a loving caring person?
I am a disabled epileptic woman who will never walk again so I work for the rights of the disabled and abused and I work tirelessly I barely ever even remember eye color or skin color I remember the love but lately the hate has been hard to ignore I will keep working and rolling and Despite my best efforts the haters won’t stop either.
Next time you elbow your buddy and snigger as you call the teller ugly or the receptionist fat or the transgender person a freak think for a second it took 2 seconds to deal out the hate but the hurt can last for ever if that was your family member how would you feel?
I proudly work to spread the love are you proud of the hate you spread? God I hope not.