This week Olympic champion and Kardashian step dad Bruce Jenner came out as a transgender woman in a big way, A BLOODY BIG WAY and the world became divided. 7 soldiers died in Afghanistan and another 6 in Nepal and 5 in a chopper crash in California, but screw that The media had more important things to cover Bruce became Caitlyn, Texas flooded so bad it made Noah jealous, but Annie Leibowitz photographed Caitlyn?HOLD THE FRONT PAGE RICH MAN BECOMES RICH WOMAN WITH PHOTOS!
I am a transgender woman, I transitioned in 1995 so this year is my twentieth anniversary as Mia. I celebrate Caitlyn, I congratulate Caitlyn, but I would not give Caitlyn an Arthur ashe award for bravery.
Yes she was brave but not throw yourself on a grenade to save thirty other soldiers brave, not sit on the front of the bus brave, not “I had a dream brave” just me and twenty million other people came out as trans brave?
There is an old memory from kindergarten from one day when I brought bazooka bubblegum to class and I was told “unless I had enough for the whole class I had to give it to the teacher” well ESPY SPORTS AWARDS unless you are going to posthumously award the new York trans woman beaten to death with a tire iron an award, the Alabama trans woman strangled by her pastor father an award, the California trans woman shot by her twin because he was afraid his gangbanger homies would think he was the same an award, or the millions who lose everything they ever worked for and never see their children an award, sorry the teacher gets to confiscate your espy.
Today the New York Times said “how dare Caitlyn and other trans women think they tell us how to be a female”? I thought WOW did they ever get it wrong. When I came out I had had over thirty years learning how to be a tough ball breaking take no shit 6ft4 martial artist bouncer business person and sailor and so much more, but nobody taught me how to be the female I knew I was on the inside
No one taught me how to roll stockings on your leg without destroying them or how to apply lipstick without looking like clown makeup or how to get in and out of a car in a skirt or sit like a lady! When we say “we are women” we meanour minds are feminine, were not stealing your place in the line were saying “my mind has always been female but my outward body was wrong”
It was almost as if I had suffered a stroke, because my mind wanted to sound lady like but my voice blurted man , my mind wanted me to sit with my legs crossed but my body screwed up the message and spread them wide I got up in the morning wanting to shave my legs but my hands moved the razor to my face.
It was as if there was a cerebral disconnect, but finally that first day that first shot of del-estrogen and that day I put on my first feminine clothing it was as if years of occupational therapy had finally worked and my mind and my body and my emotions were finally in sync.
You see when the Caitlyn’s and the Laverne’s and the Mias of this world proclaim they are feminine were not stealing your place, were not saying the generations of feminist movement and the achievements you all made for the rights of women don’t matter, were thanking you.
we’re telling you, you inspired us, you showed us that despite the years of telling us we were too strong, too tough, too physical, too male to be a woman because women couldn’t be all those things.We were told only men could and that played a huge part in us stopping ourselves from transitioning, when quite the opposite is true.
You by your fight and your strength showed us that we could be tall we could be strong we could be out spoken we could be a ball breaker a champion of sports a leader of the business world a soldier fighting for our country and still be the most beautiful person in the room, the ultimate definition of femininity because that is what every women is by your example. with Your smash the glass ceiling, you march on capitol hill and take no prisoners kick ass and take names style you showed us that we always had inside us everything we ever needed to live as a women.
We just bought into the bullshit put out by society for centuries, the very bullshit you fight against every day it just took us longer to break free.
We don’t want to push you down or to disenfranchise you or put you back bare foot and pregnant in the kitchen, quite the opposite we want to learn from you, to follow your example to intern on what it takes to be the best example of our new found freedom.
Doctors tell all life begins female then at some early point in development the brain decides who stays and who becomes male, some of just take a few decades to realize we were put in the wrong line and were given the wrong bodies hell you know how long it can take sometimes to return defective goods for me it took thirty years.
So to the current group of judgmental women with enough power and public presence to put us down from your soap box please just talk with us, listen to us, respectfully answer our questions. were not here to storm the bastille of femininity were her to join the ranks and fight with you.
You talk of us using male privilege, most of us thought we hid our true selves well growing up but we didn’t, we never had the male privilege you speak off we were branded at an early age ”poofta’ “homo: “Nancy girl” “freak” “faggot” we never were allowed in the boys club so please don’t use your female privilege and keep us out of the only one true club we do belong to.