Every hour of every day someone on my Facebook or twitter sends me a message “sign this petition help depressed youth, lgbtq youth, wounded warriors” and don’t get me wrong I support 1000% every one of those causes But if I as a person with PTSD posts “bad depression day” or PTSD SUCKS HAVING A BAD DAY” suddenly my friend list drops by a couple?
I ask why and I get told “you make us uncomfortable, your constant talk about the disabled and their rights and depression makes us want to turn off”?
But the person who wants to turn off will send me fifty different game requests?
So let’s get this straight I am not a good friend if I won’t join your mafia wars or play candy crush, but you’re ok for ignoring someone with very serious depression?
When did your right to reach the next level or farm the next imaginary field or carry out a hit on someone that doesn’t exist, suddenly outweigh my and other sufferers right to make it through the day to climb out of the black hole?
You’ll happily sign a petition to save kittens in Outer Mongolia and dolphins in the pharos or an elephant in Canada but a human in flushing queens? Not so much.
When did we as a people morally jump the shark? To save every animal every sentient being is of course important, but if the humans become more endangered than the animals who will be left to save them?
We as a world whether we like it or not are in the longest war in history since the dark ages war of the roses, and to ask 19 year olds to get up every morning and shoot another human they’ve never met eventually kills the soul. So when they come home after surviving 6 or more tours of duty more than 22 a day commit suicide because no one wants to know, no one wants to hear.
PTSD is not just from war, it can be caused by the undealt with memory of any horrendous event, from child molestation to the loss of a child to surviving years as an abused child or spouse, and the one thing all of need is to know that somewhere there is someone who will just listen. Someone invented something called social media and it gives us a chance to vent, and that rare chance to vent could just be the thing that insures we who live with depression in all its forms and names are still here tomorrow.
So next time folks you start to think making the next level at candy crush is more important than being there for a friend remember without friends there is no social in media!