Thoughts from Mia G
When My son was born it was 29 hours of labour and then a emergency caesarian. he was born 4 weeks prem but 27 inches and 12lb 11 ounces because of gestational diabetes. He was born with hydrochephalus, epilepsy , An ASD of the heart, And a VSD of the heart(holes in both the inner chamber walls and the outer walls of the heart) and a faulty valve. He was also born with faulty immature lungs, and and specific learning delay and developemental delay that meant at 2 yrs he was the mental age of a new born . With all that many voices said “you’d be bettter off giving him up get on with your life” but they never looked into his eyes as he was born, they never saw the beauty of new life our new life so almost 23 years later I have a pretty cool pain in the ass but he’s mine. All that said I don’t judge just because I don’t understand it’s their life they know what they can handle. and as for third world and war torn countries , well many of these angels have had loving parents but with the horrors of war they are left Orphans. Yes life with a disabled child is difficult and damn hard,it’s probably the hardest thing you’ll ever do, but If you can adopt one of these angels the rewards will bless you. If you can, please consider these babies.
Adopting disabled children may not be for everyone, but for those wanting to experience the joy of self-sacrifice (and yes, it can be a joy) and the love of a precious child, nothing could be better than taking one of these special children into their homes.
What Disabilities Do They Have?
Some children have mild or severe learning disabilities or have downs syndrome. Other children have either been physically disabled from birth or became disabled through an accident or injury. Some children have mental health problems or other challenging behaviors. Some children are blind or deaf. Other children have epilepsy or cerebral palsy.
But Just Like All Kids…
They need the love and security of a family. And just like all children, they pay back that love a hundred fold. Adopting these children provides many hidden blessings!
What Does Adopting Disabled Children Take?
You don’t need special skills or super-hero strength when it comes to adopting disabled children, but there are some critical things you do need:
A Strong Marriage
Any adoption (or birth) is stressful. Your routines are thrown off. You lose sleep. Some freedom is lost temporarily while you adjust to a new little person in your life. That stress is sometimes multiplied when adopting a child who is disabled. So make certain you have a strong, happy marriage beforebringing one of these precious angels into your home.
A Strong Support Network
The role of caretaker is a demanding one, especially when it comes to adopting disabled children, so you will need respite care on a regular basis. Will your extended family support your decision to adopt one of these precious children? More importantly, are they willing to provide breaks from time to time? Or are your finances such that you can hire part-time help?
Think About the Long Term
Some of these children grow up and are able to lead independent or semi-independent lives. But other children will need to be cared for their entire lives. When considering adopting disabled children, also think about the long term. Childcare costs for disabled children are higher than caring for normal children, sometimes fifty percent more.
Also, you may want to homeschool your child. Can you afford to live on one income? Plus, do you have the self-discipline it takes to set aside a portion of your earnings into a separate account so your special needs child will be provided for all her life?
Other Helpful Links
Are you thinking of adopting a child with down syndrome? Down syndrome facts and fiction has lots of helpful information on caring for one of these precious angels, from a mom who’s been there.
Another great resource is Reeces Rainbow, a ministry dedicated helping parents adopt children with down syndrome from overseas. They work hard to provide grants, and have assisted in the placement of hundreds of children. To learn more or to make a donation, click here.
Thinking of adopting a child with emotional problems or other challenging behaviors? Raising special kids is a helpful resource from a dad who has been there as well.